Single gentlemen are welcome in Delaware Valley Synergy.
That said (and because we value honesty), it only seems fair to advise you of the following facts:
1. Historically, only about 5% of all single males that join DVS, have demonstrated the personality traits and social skills to be successful in this organization.
The ones who make it are both appreciated by the ladies, and find it extremely rewarding, personally, as well. However, most single men vastly underestimate the time and effort which will be required to lay the groundwork to make friends and have successful relationships (that might include sex) with single or coupled ladies in the organization.
You should plan to consistently participate in non-permissive events for six months to a year, or even more, before expecting to be well accepted by the majority of women (or their partners) in the club. If you’re not willing to make this investment in time and energy, or, if you’re just looking for a quick lay at a party, save yourself the time, money, effort and embarrassment. The ladies know they can always find someone like that at any bar or nightclub on any given night. You won’t find what you’re looking for in DVS.
2. In DVS, we place a very high value on honesty, and can only accept those who have the informed consent of their partners. If a prospective member is in a committed relationship (married or unmarried), we require each partner to attend an orientation, even if one partner chooses not to join the group.
If you are in a committed relationship (married or unmarried), and plan to join DVS without your partner's knowledge or consent-- DON'T!
Liars and cheaters are neither welcomed nor tolerated in DVS. Violations are grounds for immediate termination of club privileges and membership.
3. Most Permissive (and even some Non-Permissive) events are gender balanced or approximately so.
This means that attendance by single males is limited by the number of single females signed up for a given event. The ratio might get as high as 11 or 12 males to every 10 females. This is not practiced as a cruelty, but rather, as a sincere effort to maximize the possibility of a good time for EVERYONE who attends.
Fact is, most women (and their partners) quickly become uncomfortable in an atmosphere where they feel outnumbered by an over-abundance of single, (even well-meaning) horny males. What's worse, is the fact that YOU aren't likely to enjoy the event, either, if there are too many men and not enough women.
This idea of gender balancing is a time proven and sensible way to allow for consistently successful events for everyone in attendance.
Some hosts practice a “second wave” approach to gender balancing. This means that single males might attend an event in the absence of an equal number of single women, but not until a few hours after the party has started.
In any case, the gender balancing policy (or lack, thereof) for any particular event is usually published by the hosts, in the event write-up in our online events calendar.
